Removing That Which Knocks You Off-Kilter

How do you maintain Balance?  One of the tasks I assigned myself this year to facilitate my goal of achieving greater, more consistent Balance is to recognize the triggers that knock me off kilter.  Then, with that knowledge, determine whether I have any power or control to reduce the impact of or eliminate the trigger.  Then, before exercising any power or control, to question:  if I can cause a change, is that change for good?  Whose good?    

For so many reasons, I find myself digging deep today.  I'm off-balance.  I identified a trigger, and I ultimately took action.  I made some tough decisions and said hard words, and, even though I stand behind each one, there are emotional and relational consequences that I need to accept, potentially respond to, and move through as I steady and regain Balance.  

Although I caution that these did NOT cause me to act, here's some of the mantras in which I've found peace and affirmation:

I'm a lover, not a fighter.  But I'll fight for what I love.

If you don't like something, change it.

Keep your head, heals, and standards high.

Because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean did that they don't love you with all they have.

The hardest thing in life is to know which bridge to cross and which to burn.

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it's probably time to change the people around you.

Maybe it's not always about trying to fix something broken.  Maybe it's about starting over and creating something better.

Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.  - Oprah Winfrey

Do what you feel in your heart to be right - for you'll be criticized anyway. -- Eleanor Roosevelt

Be who you are because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.  -- Dr. Seuss

And here's some of the mantras that I'm smiling to as I steady:

Don't look back.  You aren't going that way.

Things will get hard, and it's perfectly ok to let them weigh on you.  I think if we don't let these experiences get to us, then we aren't learning all the lessons.

All emotions are awesome.

Sometimes it's ok if the only thing you did today was breathe.

Smile.  It confuses people.

When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.  -- Abraham Lincoln

BElieve THEir is GOOD in the world.

Close your eyes. Clear your heart.  Let it go.

Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires ...  -- Charles Dickens

Do what you love, and do it often.

You're only one workout away from a good mood.

Always wear your invisible crown.

Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together.  -- Elizabeth Taylor

And each day:  

Live your dream and share your passion!